Who to Notify When Someone Dies: A Printable US Checklist
Who already gets told, who you call in the first days, weeks, and month, a "who already knows?" quiz, a short call script, and a free printable call log.
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When a Parent Dies: Calm First Steps for US Families
When a parent dies, the first job is not paperwork. It is getting the right people involved: the hospice or medical team if one is present, a funeral home, and close family. Many tasks can wait a few days. Write down who you called and what was decided, and do not sign anything you have not read.
Did you know? The FTC says no state law requires routine embalming for every death. In most cases refrigeration is an acceptable alternative, so ask the funeral home what your options are before you agree to anything. FTC: The FTC Funeral Rule
This guide points to official US sources so you can check the facts for your situation. Rules for death certificates and many other steps vary by state.
What can wait, and what cannot?
- Today: make sure someone is with your parent's pets and home, and gather their wallet, keys, and phone.
- First few days: choose a funeral home after comparing prices, and decide how many death certificates to order. Certified copies come from the state's vital records office (the CDC lists each one), and funeral homes often help order them. Our guide on how many death certificates you need has a five-minute counting checklist.
- Can usually wait: closing accounts, sorting belongings, and most money decisions. When you are ready, our who to notify when someone dies checklist sorts the calls into three waves, with a printable call log.
Social Security is often handled by the funeral home, according to SSA, but confirm it with them.
Before you meet the funeral home
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Frequently asked questions
Do I need to report a death to Social Security?
Usually not. The Social Security Administration says funeral homes generally tell SSA when someone dies, so families typically do not need to report it. If no funeral home is involved or it does not report the death, SSA asks you to call 1-800-772-1213 with the person's name, Social Security number, birth date, and date of death.
What rights do I have when choosing a funeral home?
Under the Federal Trade Commission's Funeral Rule, you can get prices by phone without giving your name, receive a written itemized General Price List when you visit, buy only the goods and services you want, and use a casket or urn bought elsewhere without an extra fee. Ask for the price list before deciding.
Is there a Social Security death benefit?
The SSA says a surviving spouse might get a one-time lump-sum death payment of $255, and if there is no spouse, some children may be eligible. Certain family members may also qualify for monthly survivor benefits. Check the SSA website or call SSA to confirm who qualifies, because the rules depend on each family's situation.
Please note: This printable is an organizational and educational tool only. It is not a will, trust, power of attorney, advance directive, or any legal document, and it is not legal, medical, financial, tax, insurance, or funeral advice. Rules vary by state and change over time, so confirm them on the official sites linked inside.
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